A teacher of mine once said, “Don’t show up as the person you think you are. Show up as the person you want to be.”>/p> A powerful statement, but I didn’t know who I wanted to be. Even if I did, I wasn’t sure if I could pull it off. I knew who I didn’t…
Self-Esteem vs. Self-Acceptance Though related, self-acceptance is not the same as self-esteem. Whereas self-esteem refers specifically to how valuable, or worthwhile, we see ourselves, self-acceptance alludes to a far more global affirmation of self. When we\’re self-accepting, we\’re able to embrace all facets of ourselves–not just the positive, more \”esteem-able\” parts. As such, self-acceptance is…
\”But, that is just who i am!\” is one of the most limiting statements ever uttered! If someone would like to ensure that nothing ever changes, then this is definitely the way they want to go. What if you never needed to utter those words? What if, instead, you were able to say, \”THIS is…
I\’m currently trying to make some changes in my career—and travel a lot less—so I can spend more time with my family and explore new creative endeavors. I have no idea how this will work—and I hate that! Which means I\’m now compulsively polling my friends: What do you think? Is this crazy? But there\’s…
In his book The Art of Uncertainty, Dennis Merritt Jones writes: “Between a shaky world economy, increasing unemployment, and related issues, many today are being forced to come to the edge of uncertainty. Just like the baby sparrows, they find themselves leaning into the mystery that change brings, because they have no choice: It’s fly…
I don’t know about you but the saying \”The more you learn the less you know\” feels pretty accurate. The more I learn the more I feel like things are a mystery to me. But, this doesn\’t mean I feel less happy or secure. As I learn to love the mystery of life I feel…
According to Adapt, “success comes through rapidly fixing our mistakes rather than getting things right first time.” To prove his point, Harford cites compelling examples innovation by trial-and-error from visionaries as varied as choreographer Twyla Tharp and US Forces Commander David Petraeus. I interviewed Harford over email to dig deeper into the counter-intuitive lessons of…
Failure is such a negative word that it seems strange to suggest that it can be a good thing. How many times have you looked back on your life, thought of mistakes you’ve made, and kicked yourself over them? I know I sure have. I have had many failures in my life. I have lost…
Are you one of those people who always wants to get it right? I am sometimes. Although less and less because I know it does not make me happy. One sure fire way to be both happier and more successful is to embrace the mistakes –even to welcome them. Our mistakes are some of the…
Good fences make good neighbors, and nowhere is this more true than in your romantic relationship. But many people hide their stance on a subject, or at least soften it, to be more likable at the start of a new relationship. “I like hanging out with your family every weekend.” “Your vegetarianism is no problem…